We all wish to be more confident. Confidence is one of the most influential features anyone can possess. With confidence, you can move masses.
However, oftentimes, we tend to confuse confidence with arrogance and thus, never actually get to be confident. If anything, arrogance is often a sign of low self-esteem.
Below are some seemingly counterintuitive ways that actually show you are confident and if you aren’t, can actually improve your confidence.
Admitting you are wrong
Many people will often be on the defensive when they are wrong. Others, though, might admit to being wrong as a way to be defensive.
However, to be a more confident person, whenever you pick out a mistake or misstep on your part, point it out before someone calls it out. And if they call it out before you pick, admit that you were wrong.
Admitting your mistakes means that you are okay with failing and learning from the failure. Each learned lesson builds your confidence further.
Asking for help
Many have come to associate asking for help as a sign of weakness. However, that is not the case.
Indeed, the people asking for help are people who are secure enough to know their limitations. Confidence breeds courage, and this includes the courage to ask for help when you reach your limits.
You change your mind
The most confident people are the people who are open to new points of view, new ideas, and challenges to their way of thinking.
Jeff Bezos actually summed this up nicely in this quote.
When you are confident, you understand that what you know might be subject to change. You know you have answers to some questions but you don’t have answers to all questions. Hell, you know you don’t even know all the questions.
However, this doesn’t mean always changing your mind anyhow. You need to have new information that challenges your old viewpoint logically and critically. Don’t just change your mind for the sake of it.
You avoid constant praise
Praise is good, but if you are confident in your abilities, you will not constantly seek validation from others by putting yourself in the spotlight every time you do something great.
To build this side of you, work on your skills not to get praise, but to improve your life. This way, you will not feel the need to constantly show off your skills. Instead, your skills will be a way of improving yourself and thus, you won’t need constant praise for it.
When you seek constant praise, you put your confidence in someone else’s hands.
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